Seamus Heaney at City Arts

Seamus Heaney was introduced last night at City Arts and Lectures by an American poet of skill and grace, a man admired by many for his work as a poet and as an advocate for poetry. This man is as close to being a rock star in the poetry world as you can get without being Billy Collins.  And yet, something about preceding Heaney seemed to unnerve him.  Although he spoke at length and helpfully about the poems Heaney was going to read, it was difficult to follow his introduction.  That's because every few seconds he would remove his glasses, then place them on the podium or slide them into his shirt pocket or wave them in the air. And then he’d put them on again and the whole elaborate dance of removal and retrieval would begin again. Three quarters of the way through the introduction, I began to count the number of times his hands met his glasses. I got to eleven before Heaney came on the stage.

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Binoculars, Key Finder, Bike Tuneup

It's always interesting to see what things your loved ones think you most want and need. Children, in particular, follow no established pattern in matching you with the ideal gift.  For example, a few years ago, my husband took our children to a stationery store before mother's day, gave each of them $5 and told them they could buy me anything they wanted with that money.  The result: a handsome yellow rubber luggage tag, a handful of extraordinary pens (in all colors of the rainbow), a little case that held three pencils decorated with a pattern of daisies. I still have all these things, and use them regularly.

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Mum’s the Word

I have a friend who says the only time you should give someone advice is when they ask for it. Or in an emergency.

Apparently, my mother felt that childhood — my entire childhood — was a time of great emergency. Or that children are sort of implicitly asking for advice, simply by virtue of being so short. Whatever the explanation, when my mother opened her mouth, out would come advice.

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Saturday Morning Blogroll

The "next blog" feature on WordPress is a lot like playing an iPod on shuffle, except you're shuffling through the library of someone whose taste in music diverges wildly, but not always unpleasantly, from your own. Many of the blogs are in languages I don't speak: Greek, Arabic, Italian, Japanese, Spanish, Tech. Some are so clearly private that after reading a few words I close my eyes and click on "next blog," the way you look away when you see someone trying to get lettuce out of their teeth. Sometimes you feel as though you've picked up someone's diary by mistake and in a moment of horrible weakness read it. All of it. All about how they got together and then broke up and got back together and then broke up and then…. (Sorry, it's hard to stop.) Some of them are just plain insane — like the blog of a guy who records his moments of flatulence and the movement of his bowels in astonishing detail. (Although I must tell you that when I described this blog to my three boys, they howled with laughter. What works for some, does not work for others.)

Some of the blogs I come across are just plain wonderful. I'm giving myself half an hour every Saturday morning for this "next blog" browse, partly because it's so addictive I have to put a limit on it. Here's what I found today:

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Lost and Found

It was like putting my hand in the pocket of a coat I wore twenty years ago when I lived in Pullman, Washington and discovering I'd left some money in there. $32.19 to be exact. Better than a bus transfer and gum wrappers, which is usually what I find in my pocket.

I don't know where I found the website that led me to my $32.19 — but it's a wonderful thing to check out when you have fifteen minutes.

It's the site of a professional body called something like The Unclaimed Property Professionals. There's a portal that takes the professionals to their site and one that takes ordinary people to theirs. I wasn't sure what kind of secret handshake the U.P.P. uses, so I went the ordinary people route.

What a bonanza!

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Starts. Runs. Stops.

Once, a long time ago, my husband and I took a marriage renewal class at St. Mary Magdalen church in Berkeley. It was so long ago that I cannot recapture what we could possibly have been thinking when we made this foolish decision.

Father George, the parish prist, gave us a personality assessment test to kind of break the ice, to remind each of us that the other person taking the test could still be described, and not in moments of saracasm either, as our soul mate. It was the kind of test that evaluates whether you believe your glass is half full or half empty, whether you think people are inherently good or evil, whether you should be calling the shots or whether things should be left to the complete idiots who make up the rest of the world’s population, and what you feel your team’s chances of making it to the World Series are.

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Photo Finished

About a month ago, I got a letter from some people in Arizona. Inside were a couple of grainy black and white pictures of a woman, driving my husband's car through what looked like a red light. The letter was not from the police department or the district attorney. It was from a private company, the kind of company that wants you to get in touch with them to lower your mortgage. Pulling the pictures out of this envelope was disturbing. It was vaguely reminiscent of the film noir moment when a manila envelope is slid under the door of someone you've been watching do something terribly wrong. In black and white, in a city where it's always foggy. Inside the manila envelope are bad quality photos and a request for payment.

Here, there was no request for payment. Not yet. What they wanted was for me to say that woman was me.

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The Madeleine Project: John Donne

When Proust dipped his much-discussed madeleine into a cup of lime tea, his pleasure in the madeleine and the tea were the same then as they were when he was a child. Whenever someone mentions this moment in literature, I wonder (a) what kind of madeleine was it (surely not the type they sell in cellophane packets at Starbucks?) and (b) what forgotten things would give me the same pleasure now as they did then? And why is that? Continue reading

Hadrian’s Wall: Just Because You Can, Doesn’t Mean You Should

I'll bet a lot of us grew up in houses where our parents just didn't buy us very much stuff.  In the 1970s, when I was a kid, I asked for a pair of Adidas Superstars (were they $9.99 or $19.99?) because every kid I knew had them. My mom was shocked and a little upset — they cost more than regular tennis shoes, I already had regular tennis shoes and getting another pair was just plain wasteful. Continue reading

Lemon Jello Cake

My mother in law has made this cake every Easter pretty much since they rolled the stone away from the tomb. It is the harbinger of spring for my husband and his family. For years, I didn't eat it. It was very yellow and it involved not one but two mixes. That didn't sit well with me. I've spent a lot of my adult life undoing the damage of a childhood in which dinner meant beef stroganof helper (actually, even worse, indifferently prepared beef stroganof helper) and other things that came in boxes and bags and tasted not like food but like food drawn on pieces of cardboard. Lemon Jello Cake struck me as being of that ilk.

The other problem was that the cake has a distinct daffodil-like hue. Where I grew up, daffodils were a big deal, a cash crop. Every year there was a Daffodil Parade. A Daffodil Princess, chosen after months of scheming and lobbying. It was weird eating a cake the color of the sacred flower. And besides, I was pretty sure it would be really, really icky. Continue reading

A Sea of White

From last Monday, May Day, the day of the big immigration march:

It's a really beautiful day in San Francisco today, and after months of rain, it seems like a different city. I was on an errand about an hour ago and saw a a huge crowd of people marching down Mission Street toward Justin Herman Plaza in the Embarcadero. On my way back from doing my errand, I saw another wave of people walking down Market Street. A sea of people in white shirts. Continue reading